Hi there fellow Stay-at-home-Momma (SAHM). First of all, I wanna ask you, How are you doing? I know how tired and exhausted you are. Being a SAHM can be very frustrating and challenging at times. It’s a full time job without a day off and you literally have to be available 24 hours a day. I know! I feel you, Momma! Sometimes we may feel like we lost our sanity in the process and we are overwhelmed with a lot of emotions but we all know there is always a way to keep our sanity on check! Here are just a few tricks that could help us keep our sanity in our crazy daily life at home.
1. GET READY FOR THE DAY
This is very important! When you wake up, always make yourself ready for your daily work. If you feel lazy, brush it off. Drink your coffee and kick the day right. Try to think of things that you will do that excites you. In my case, I think of what food to make for my babies, and when I think of that , I get excited for them to try it and then I’m up and ready to hustle!
2. DRESS UP SOMETIMES, EVEN IF YOU ARE JUST AT HOME
This really helps a lot! I know we all feel like we are getting haggard each day and that we are sticky and sweaty. Dressing up can actually boost your energy and your mood. What I do is, sometimes, after my bath, I put on a little lippie, wear my most stylish home clothes and put a little perfume to make myself feel beautiful and sexy. Yes, it helps a lot if you feel beautiful and sexy.
3. PLAY BLIND AND PLAY DEAF
Life at home with babies or toddlers can be very dramatic and noisy. Cool SAHM have the right to play blind and play deaf. By playing blind, I mean if you see dirty laundry piling up, pretend you didn’t see it. If you see a dusty window, pretend you didn’t see it. Don’t try to keep everything in control because you know that’s impossible. Playing deaf means if you hear your baby crying and you got your hands full, pretend you didn’t hear it. You know its healthy to let them cry sometimes as long as you know they are not hungry and not sick. Playing blind or deaf does not make you a bad mom, it makes you a sane mom! Ha!
4. EMBRACE THE CHAOS
Yes, learn to embrace the chaos. The scattered toys, the noisy babies, the dirty dishes, the messy room and all other chaotic scenarios at home, embrace all that. You can’t keep everything tidy and organized. There will always be chaos at home. Own it, love it, embrace it. Don’t stress over it.
5. IGNORE THE HATERS
Ignore the naysayers. Those people who question why you are “JUST” a SAHM definitely do not know what SAHMs really do. They have no idea what kind of life you are living and what sacrifices you make everyday to get the job done. Choose your friends, you don’t have room for people who throw negativity in your life. We know that being a SAHM is a very overwhelming job and definitely the hardest and most challenging. So ignore the haters and continue what you have been doing and do a great job!
6. TAKE A TIME OFF
I know being a SAHM is a full time job, 24/7. But rest is still very important and rest is holy. Take a time off, if you can’t afford a day off, take an hour or two off. You need it and you deserve it. Go out to your favorite cafe, visit a friend, go shop in the mall, have your favorite meal out, do whatever makes you feel good. You will do so much better when you feel rested and refreshed.
7. GET HELP
Don’t be ashamed to ask help when you need it. Being a SAHM is not an easy job. If you feel sad or lonely, call a friend, share your thoughts. If you feel tired, ask someone to help you for the day or even a half a day. If you are depressed and down, seek counsel. Being a SAHM is a rollercoaster of emotions and sometimes it can be too much for us. Don’t be afraid to get help and always remember that it’s okay not to be okay. Once you get the help you need, you will feel so much better and you will be ready to hustle again.
I know all these are too easy to say but it’s worth a try. I mean, hey, if it helps keep you sane and helps you feel better, all the more reason to try. Being a SAHM is a calling and a gift. Not everyone can be a SAHM. You have to embrace it and do everything to protect it. Don’t let one gloomy day ruin your best self in being a full time Momma.
You got this, Momma.
You are not alone.
You are doing a great job.