The Making of a Mrs.

 Proverbs 18:22

He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.

It is every girl’s dream to walk down the aisle in a beautiful white dress, all eyes on her while the man of her dreams is smiling back at her in the altar. This is what almost all girls want to achieve in their lifetime. I, for one, am blessed to be living that dream a few days from now. But what I really want to share and focus more is not the making of a beautiful wedding but the making of a beautiful soon to be Mrs. ❤

First of all, I am a strong believer of marriage. The wedding is not about the flowers, the dress, the place nor the guests. The wedding is the vows. This is what I learned from our spiritual father (pastor jo) in our pre-marital counseling sessions. Marriage is a covenant, not a contract. So yes, unlike contracts, marriages don’t expire. The vows we say to our partner in the altar, are also vows before God.  This is the reason why I have put so much effort and prayerfully wrote down my vows because this is my covenant with God.

When you make a vow to God do not delay in fulfilling it. He has no pleasure in fools; fulfill your vow. It is better not to make a vow than to make one and not fulfill it. (Ecclesiastes 5:4-5)

Second of all, I acknowledge and embrace the value of every woman called to be a wife. Being a woman is glamorous in itself but being a wife takes the glamor up to a different level. A wife is a gift personally wrapped by God to be given to the man He personally chose.

Proverbs 31:10-12

“10A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.

11Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.

12She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.”

I believe in both marriage and in being a wife. That is why, as I approach marriage a few days from now, I have listed a few things that would help me in becoming the wife that God purposefully designed for my man (Josh ❤ ).

The making of a MRS. :

1. Be totally whole

You cannot marry someone because you are not happy alone. You gotta have the right reasons and right motives in marrying. Be sure that you are completely whole and filled with joy even without a partner. A broken person marrying another broken man won’t really make you whole. You are just two broken people living together and breaking even more. You cannot fully love the person also if you are not whole. A person will always fall short of who you want him to be, you cannot force him to complete you and to fill those empty corners in your life. You will only end up frustrated. But hey, there’s one person I know who can totally complete you and thats my Big Man JC up there! Be whole in Him first and be amazed on how you can express love to your partner when you are completely filled with Jesus Christ in your heart. ❤

Colossians 2:10

And you have been made complete in Christ, who is the head over every ruler and authority.

2. Be with the chosen man

I have always believed that the Lord wants the best for us. I also believe that women are precious gems and we are far worth more than rubies and diamonds. That is why we shouldn’t just settle. We gotta wait for the best. And the best is not the one that ticks off all the qualities you want from a man. The best one is the one that God chose and set apart for you. Remember, you will be living with this person your whole life, there is no room for mistakes. You have to choose right. So ladies, we have to learn to hear from the Lord. Only He knows the best man for us. ❤

Genesis 2:18

Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”

3. Die to self

When we walk down that aisle, we are not just celebrating a birth of a new chapter in our lives but we are also stepping into a life where we progressively and continually die to ourselves. We have to let go of our old habits, old routines and our old selves. We are now progressively trying to be in union with our partner. Dying to self does not necessarily mean that we forget and care less about ourselves. Dying to self means that our self is no longer the reason for our existence. As a christian woman, I acknowledge that God created me for a purpose. To fully embrace my purpose, I let go of my selfish agendas and accept the challenges and changes in whatever way God wants to use me. As wives, we should also learn to submit to our husbands as authority and man of the house. We cannot be selfish and self-centered. We ought to be the helpmate and parnter of our husbands thus we should properly equip ourselves with wisdom and faith.  Dying to self is hard but with God’s love upon us, our love for Him and our love for our partner makes it possible. ❤

Colossians 3:3

For you have died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God.

2 Corinthians 5:17

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.

4.  Heed counsel

When a person is in love, our emotions take over and we tend to be biased in our perspectives and we only see what we want to see. I am so blessed to be surrounded with good people with good marriages who are very generous in sharing their thoughts and advices in achieving a happy marriage. Again, I am a strong believer of learning from other people’s experiences. It is very important that you choose people who can be with you in your journey and who pray with you in good times and bad times. Listening to the counsel of others makes you wiser. Let us not be eaten by pride and be open to what other people can share to make our journey worthwhile.

Proverbs 1:5

Let the wise listen to these proverbs and become even wiser. Let those with understanding receive guidance

Proverbs 12:15

The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice.

5. Love freely

I’ll keep this simple. Love like Christ. The standard of love is the one that was manifested in the cross. So let’s love freely and consistently. ❤

1 Corinthians 16:14

Let all that you do be done in love.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7

⁴ Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. ⁵ It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. ⁶ Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. ⁷ It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres

Not many are blessed with a love story that is God ordained. I am very thankful that God allowed me to learn and experience this journey as I open a new page in my life as a wife and a partner. I embrace this calling and I will forever be working hard to make this marriage beautiful all for the glory of God. ❤